Spring time and Easter have been associated with new beginnings ever since the first change of seasons happened. It’s logical, right? Things start growing around this time of year.
This makes me think about what is growing in my own life. Or more specifically, it makes me think about the things that I WISH were growing. When you would like to see something happening, and it isn’t, it is a great time to examine why. My examination has revealed that I waste far too much time and effort on social media. My return on that investment is certainly negative. I find myself checking in many times a day on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc.
What am I looking for? Honestly, I’m not really sure. There is little that I get on these sites that I can’t find out in a more direct manner, such as emailing these “friends” directly to see how they are. And I have to ask myself whether I should be following all these feeds if I don’t feel comfortable sending them an email or text directly. In many cases, that answer is no…so why do I follow them on social media?
Why do I share what I share? Again, honesty…I’m not really sure. I know that the vast majority of what I have shared in the past is really only meaningful to myself or those few people who shared the experience with me. Am I sharing for likes? Rare comments? Do I need validation from people I’ve never met (or haven’t talked to in decades?) to ensure that I live a meaningful life?
I was discussing the connection aspect, and lack thereof, of social media with my girlfriend a while ago, and had the thought that maybe we shouldn’t be so connected. Have you felt overwhelmed when you couldn’t respond to internet friends in a timely manner because your REAL life was needing your attention? Do dozens of birthday wishes stress you out because you just can’t take the time to respond to all of them individually? Especially because the vast majority of those birthday wishes come from people whose last contact with you was a Facebook birthday greeting?
I think our circles, friend lists, Twitter feeds, and followers have us feeling a false obligation to keep everyone updated on things they neither care about or really understand. Do the things we share actually represent the lives we live? Nope. We share the lives that we want others to see. And sometimes what we share touches on the lives we wished we lived.
If we spent as much time focusing on doing things that really mattered (defined as personal development, helping others, making the world a better place) as we do on sharing the inconsequential moments, we could actually make a difference.
That is what I hope to do in this time of new beginning – focus my life on things that matter. There are specific things that I want to see grow in my life. This blog is one of those things. I want to produce information and thoughts that help others. And I need to focus my time here if that is going to happen.
Here is my challenge to you: If this article has stirred up some thoughts for you on how you want to utilize time or resources, send me a thoughtful email at dan at djkreger dot com. Don’t leave a comment. I may actually disable them! I promise a response and encouragement for the changes you may want to make.